The “Easy” Life

My Mom has this quote sitting in front of the kitchen sink. While we were there during the holidays, every time I was cleaning a dish or washing my hands I saw it…and since then this idea has been running circles in my mind.

What if I just acted like everything was easy? Would it be?

I am a huge proponent of the power of thought. It has been one of the only ways I have been able to make it through some of my toughest trials. I do believe you can’t always control your circumstance but you can always control your response to it.

The above photo was from our adventure in New Zealand. It was fun…but we were also sleeping/camping out of a vw van. Two of the days we were without heat in the van AND it happened to snow. I did a fair amount of complaining. I was cold, my baby was warm but had to wear every article of clothing and be covered in three blankets, Grant was cold and trying to navigate, I was miserably cold…did I mention I was cold? I don’t think my complaining necessarily ruined any part of the trip but I do look back and think…”what if I had acted like everything was easy?”. Would I have smiled more and complained less? Instead could I have helped cheer up Grant more and giggle with my baby under her pile of blankets?

For pretty much every situation I face that seems hard, I know it could be a lot worse. Easy isn’t always the best word to describe any given moment but perhaps I could make those moments “easier” by choosing a different mind set.

Being a parent has reminded me of this again and again. I can choose for a lot of things to be a burden or hardship OR I can choose to see certain moments as adventures and blessings.

One thing I do know since thinking more about this “easy” idea is the more I think of it, the easier things are becoming.

What does everyone else think? Anyone want to join me in my quest to find more silver linings?

Carol + Ryan’s Sydney Australia Wedding

There are days I have as a photographer (and human being) that are just so surreal.

As I was shooting this wedding on the other side of the world…I had a tiny epiphany: The world just isn’t that big.

I mean of course it’s HUGE but after travelling and connecting with so many different people, in so many different places I am left feeling like this is just one big village. Sure this may sound a little cheesy, but I really don’t care. One of the main reasons I am a photographer is because I love going from strangers one minute to friends the next. I can’t even fathom how different my life would be if I hadn’t been where I have been and met who I have met. I am convinced, by experience, that we all have something we can relate to in someone else. I could go off forever on this subject..but the bottom line is: I love my job.

Carol and Ryan flew me on over to document their wedding day. There was amazing light, pretty pink dresses, a room full of their friends and family and one very happy photographer.

I have to give a huge thanks to Brandon Worcester for assisting me that day. He picked me up from my hotel and 16hrs later, dropped me off. Within 5mins of meeting each other we realized we had a bunch of similar friends in LA. See! This is what I am talking about. SMALL WORLD. Anyway, he was amazing and such a big help. He also happens to be a very talented photographer with a great eye and amazing taste. Check out his work here.

Carol and Ryan, thank you again for having me come out. I wish you a very VERY happy life together.

Things Are Changing

A little trick I learned this weekend at Blogshop. A class I took to learn new fun designy things.

How cute  is my baby?

ps. I do have fun shoots to share with you (besides images of novs)..PROMISE. Hang tight.

11 Months

When I think about what I will miss most about her first year…it’s always the day to day things.

The way she looks crawling into our bedroom. The snuggle time in bed. The “normal” stuff that we often overlook as the magic. But when we look back in our memories it’s all the normal stuff that makes the magic. So I gave myself a personal project for her 11 month photoshoot, to document a day, unaltered, unposed. Just us being us.

I didn’t clean up. I didn’t take off my bathrobe until 1pm. It wasn’t the most exciting or photogenic day. The light wasn’t always perfect…the shots not all worthy of “oohs and ahhs”. But to me they are just as they should be…REAL.

Thanks to Grant for partnering with me on this. I do spend a lot of my day with her on my hip and am so grateful that Grant could capture her and I together.

So here it is, a day with Nova on her 11 month birthday:

You like to look out the window first thing when you wake up.

Dad changes your morning diaper.

Pretty much how we sleep all night long together.

Hey world, I’m 11 months old!

I love when you throw your neck back like this. Like you are too relaxed to keep your head upright.

Cheeks.

I never knew I would have a baby that likes stuffed animals so much. You LOVE them.

Always crawling with something in your right hand.

Trying your first green smoothie. Nom noms?

*this face*

Your new trick is to tear everything off your shelves. This is my favorite photo from this post.

Feed to sleep…

“Mom!! I don’t like napping! I want to stay up with you and Dad!!”

..Fine. We’ll read a book.

You hang on my leg constantly. You would always prefer to be in my arms than on your own.

Our happy place.

Lamby, we bought for you in New Zealand.

Getting dressed is kind of the worst.

…it’s just so sad.

Happy tears.

Finally asleep. Bum in the air. (You are a light sleeper, so taking this photo was extremely dangerous).

This is what we do when you’re asleep…(and a little work).

Awake and the cutest thing we ever did see.

Relaxing with mama as I wake up.

One of us sits next to you most of the time while we are in the car. 1st child luxuries.

Meeting Mom’s cousins on Balboa island for my first frozen banana.

Walking , walking, walking. I just want help walking on my own two feet 24/7.

Pushing around the side table as a walker, sans one moccasin.

Let me in that bathroom!

Bathtime with one of us (always…another 1st child luxury). Don’t worry Grant is wearing swim trunks.

Is there anything better in the world than wet baby eyelashes?

Dry off, lotion up, diaper, and one last drink before bedtime. (You’re welcome for that bum shot).

In your crib until your next wake when we gobble you up in bed with us. Until then we’ll miss you…serious.

Have we really almost made it a year?

I can tell you are ready…ready to be bigger.

…Except when you let me hold you like a little baby and sing to you and coo at you while wrapped in your favorite pink blanket.

You want to feed yourself. No more of that mushy spoon fed stuff. You want pieces you can pick up w your own fingers.

You can eat parts of anything we eat and that makes meal time so much easier. You are still partial to avocado, cheese, bread..basically anything you can feed yourself.

You talk and breastfeed at the same time. Sometimes I catch you giggling too.

The other night we were winding down singing songs in your room and while we were cheek to cheek you turned & kissed me on my lips.

Everything is your own personal walker. Side tables, chairs, anything that slides on the concrete floors.

You got a plastic car/walker/seat/music player thing from Gma and Gpa Thurston that you push around on the slippery concrete like a boss.

Your independence is growing & I’m trying to wrap my mind around it. I know its necessary & good but I can’t help but feel a tiny bit sad about it. Maybe sad is the wrong word…mourning the moving on maybe..

Your hair is getting longer and looking blonder. You have crazy bed head when you wake up.

Your eyelashes are so long and luscious.

Your front top teeth have broken through and are working their way down.

You play peekaboo with anything. A curtain, a blanket, a toy. Today in the car you used my hand.

Definitely ticklish under your armpits. Laughs every time.

You want us to hold your hands and walk you around everywhere. You walk towards one of us with the biggest silliest grin on your face.

You are finally over double your birth weight. To me you are the perfect size.

Ma ma ma ma when you are tired or hungry or sad or hurt or needy.

Da da da da da when you don’t want to nap!

We have been calling you Nuh nuhs, pickle, nutty, my little chicken, do dos, zuzus, Nutty…and when we really mean it, Nova or Novs.

We have caught you going from sitting to standing without holding on to anything. Very impressive.

We have also caught you wrestling and snuggling with your giant stuffed bear when no one is watching. You will burrow your face in his belly and roll all over him. A-DOR-A-BLE.

You love to hand us stuff..and then take it back. You also love feeding me stuff. Hilarious when mom eats out of your hand.

Sometimes when you have had enough or aren’t sure what you want you will cross your arms and uncross them and then cross them again.

You love getting into everything–in fact, you can’t play in the office as much anymore because you are very busy and you can definitely be anywhere you want to be by crawling, standing, or climbing.

You love music..you dance and sometimes when the music is on, you want to stand in front of the speakers and “watch it”.

Yo gabba gabba transfixes you. You have only watched it a few times so everyone chill!! 

We have to watch that you don’t drop heavy things on yourself now because you can lift or pull amazing amounts of weight from shelves and drawers, you’re just not sure how to put them down yet.

Love the birds (crows) that come cawing at dusk each day.  You hear them and look for them so we take you outside and you love to see them fly and perch on the power lines.

I swear you call birds “Ca’s”.

You babble a lot but we still aren’t really sure what words you for sure know. Mama and Dada seem pretty solid though.

You just got a big girl carseat and we finally bought a Bob jogging stroller. You were strollerless for 2+months. Which was fine..we love toting you in the carrier but I think you will be more comfy in the stroller for long walks.

So one more month until you are one. Hard to believe. There are so many projects I want to do to celebrate and remember your first year. But mainly the most important thing I want to do is watch you. I don’t want to miss noticing anything. Your Dad and I were discussing if we thought we had given you enough undividided attention your first year…had we looked enough at you? Had we spent good quailty time with you? Happily the answer was YES. This was something I knew I would regret more than anything…not really being present for you in the way that I wanted to be. I am happy to say I have no regrets in that department. I haven’t been perfect. Days spent away from you for shoots have damn near killed me. They have been few and far between but those days are long for both of us…and afterwards I have to always ask myself if those days I am away take something away from you that I can’t give back. Finding the balance has been the main topic in our home..and I am guessing will be maybe forever. What I do know is we are close as close can be. For everyday I am away from you I give myself at least one full day of only you and I time to fill in the missing spots. You and I and Dad are making it work. Truth be told I am feeling like if we could make it past year 1 of baby 1 we can make through any year!! Throw a few more kids in the mix..no big deal! (right?!)

You encompass every thought I have and every decision I make. You are the sun the rest of us revolve around.

Let’s celebrate every tiny moment we have this month growing together and every growing moment after that as well…forever.

 

Featured on Inspired By This

 

Inspired By This featured Laura and Haoqi’s Wedding on their blog today! Thank you Leila and Lauren for featuring my work!

Go here to see more.

And thank you to all the amazing vendors who made this wedding such a great one to photograph:

Wedding Planner/Coordinator: Esther Kim of My Bride Story
Videographer: Paperback Weddings
Hair: Mish Mucho
Makeup: Rita Nguyen
Officiant: Debby Davis
Catering: EcoCaters
Flowers & Decor: Kristine Shin
Ceremony Venue: Torrey Pines Reserve
Reception Venue: parents’ backyard
Cake Baker: Azucar

 

The Little Blue House

I had an idea for our family. A tradition of having a painted piece of art of each of the homes we live in. So this year I commissioned talented artist Lisa Crosby  to paint her rendition of our first home together, The Little Blue House.

I wrapped it up and Grant opened it on Christmas morning. He loved it and so do I.

Don’t you think this will be a fun tradition? I can already see a wall covered in paintings of the places we call home.

Thank you Lisa. The painting was more than perfect. I’m not sure how you captured lil’ blues essence so perfectly. You are so talented.

If you are interested in commissioning Lisa contact her @ crosby.lisa@gmail.com.

Tradition

I thought it was really sweet that Carol wanted a separate little shoot highlighting some of the traditional jewelry her mom gave her as a wedding gift. How gorgeous is it?

I love when couples incorporate elements into their weddings that really mean something to them.

Pretty window light and “a reason why” is all you need to keep this photographer happy.

Carol + Ryan’s Day After Shoot- Sydney, Australia

Yep. These two were wed the day before and then met up with me for a few more photos around the Rock’s District of Sydney.

It was kind of nice. Usually I am so sad leaving weddings..wondering if and when I will see my couple again but this time no sad goodbyes! Just see you tomorrow’s. I like prolonging goodbyes as long as possible.

More of these two this week!

Christmas 2011

We had an early Christmas with Grant’s side of the family here in California before flying to Utah Christmas Eve to spend a few days with my side. I didn’t shoot a whole lot while we were in SLC…was just enjoying the down time and looking at my daughter with my eyeballs and not through glass. Here are some shots of our favorite leading lady’s 1st Christmas:

The loot.

She didn’t even hesitate…She knew which pile was hers!

This was her reaction to the wonder of Christmas presents. Priceless. We couldn’t have staged it anymore perfect.

Eat that baby!!

Proof she has parents.

Thanks to Grant and Anna for catching some candid moments of me with Nov’s. I never get these!! And I really love this one. I am constantly kissing her neck and I think this is our only photo of me doing it.

As children we deemed the “FC” (favorite child) to the person who got the tears from Mom with their Christmas gift to her. This year Anna won with a churchy gift that my mom obviously loved. Anna: FC.

We had Kate and Jake this year, so I whipped up a simple wedding album for them.

Had to bring these from CA…for peppermint joe joe shakes!!

These 2 images are my favorites from Christmas. She was obsessed with the tree and spent hours staring at it and pulling at it. Look at that face. I made that.

…oh, she also liked crawling underneath it. Once she did she was kind of confused on how to get out.

Playing in the dirtiest corners..always.

Love this shot. Thanks to whoever snapped it. She is almost always within an arms reach of me.

Under the tree once last time before bed.

Family photo of us doing what we do at my mom’s…chillin hard. Watching some-sort of video on our phone and just enjoying our time off.

We had a great Christmas and we hope you did too. Christmas is different once you are an adult…but then once you have kids the magic is back in full force. I loved buying her presents so much and she would have been happy with one new sippy cup.  Grandma and Grandpa spoiled her with a puppy that barks and walker she can push…we also bought her the Shirley Temple movies, which were my favorites from childhood. I hope she loves them too.

Gosh, love my little family so much. xo.

Featured on JCrew!

Remember my drop dead gorgeous couple from circa 2010 Boston? Well, Mara wore a JCrew wedding dress and some of my images are on JCrew.com. Read a little of their love story here.

And speaking of love…Mara and Danny have started a blog all about love, www.ablogaboutlove.com. It is pretty amazing. Honest and open and hits you strait in the heart.

Thanks to JCrew for featuring my images on their site and thanks to Mara and Danny for having me photograph their wedding day. It was one of my favorites.

Jenny + Taylor’s Wedding

Ceremony at the Newport Beach Temple, Reception at a private residence on Balboa Island….they said their goodbyes and waved goodbye from their get-away boat…but they secretly met back up with me for a few more photos on Balboa! Ice cream and frozen bananas in hand, the day officially wrapped. Every wedding should end with a surprise get-away and secret meet up with the photographer to steal more shots with the best light of the day.

Such a great couple. Both from such amazing, generous families AND I shot this wedding in 4hrs flat. I was home by 5:30pm. Best ever.

Happy marriage you two! Thank you for letting me third wheel with you guys during your first day as husband and wife.

Miriam + Matt

These two crazies are getting married next weekend!! I will be there to photograph every single move they make (not unlike a song sung by Sting).

They are fun (and pretty) and this 30min shoot at Seal Beach is proof.

Published in San Francisco Bride’s Magazine

 

I have been meaning to find the time to post this other amazing feature that we had…San Francisco Bride’s Magazine published images from Erin and Tyler’s wedding. How awesome is that? (They even quoted me!) Erin and Tyler had a grogeous wedding planned by the talented Heather of Amorology.

I just love the opportunity I have to work with so many talented people. Thank you to SF Brides for featuring my work!

Featured on Project Wedding

 

What a way to start the year!! Project Wedding featured Amanda and Tommy’s Wedding on their website and blog today!! Thank you Project Wedding for featuring my work!

Here’s to another year of shooting fabulous weddings!

You can see the feature at any one of these links:

Best of 2011

…and this is only what I actually blogged. I still have more 2011 images yet to come.

The interesting thing about this year was I only worked half of it…June through December. Those 7 short months were so amazing for my business that Grant joined up with me. In 2011 the word “family” took on a whole new meaning for us.

I was tempted to only show one image..which wraps up the whole year for me..one of my sweet Nova. Really she was the focus, the center, the star. BUT then I realized without the trust and work my amazing clients give me, we wouldn’t be in the same situation , we wouldn’t be able to focus so much on what really matters the most to us.

So from the bottom of this new mothers heart, thank you. Thank you for letting me be a part of your celebrations and challanges and newness…and thank you for being a part of mine.

My prices have been raised for 2012. My time is more precious and my family more needy. I will only take select weddings and commercial jobs. I want to give only my best to my sweet clients and to my family.  I am so exited at the new opportunities I’m sure await me in 2012. The new relationships, the new images I will create and the new changes for my family.

I have so many amazing ideas swirling in my head. Ideas that 2012 will bring to the surface.

Happy New Years!!

Love, Rachel, Grant and Nova